Life can get hectic sometimes. Even chaotic. How do you slow down and take the time to show yourself love? It should take at least 10 to 30 minutes of your day to indulge yourself, at least. Maybe more but it’s all up to you and how you show yourself love.
I don’t often love myself because I haven’t really truly love myself lately. I know it’s difficult for me because I’m always thinking of others than myself first. Which is bad because this is how I learned it from my parents when growing up. AND it is a bad idea if you’re just laying on the bed and playing candy crush on your phone. it’s a no-no.
Start treating yourself like you’re a queen or king. You deserve to be pampered. I don’t often treat myself like I’m a queen but I try to treat myself like I’m a princess. Like today this morning, I decided to pamper myself by doing a mud mask on me. Cause, why not? I haven’t done this to myself for a while nor doing the mud mask for a while. Do a nose peel and give your facial some love. Take a bath! A long, long bath. Get lush bath bomb while you get it and get fascinated with the colors spilling out into the water. Treat yourself once in a while (It’s also another mental note for me).
Tell yourself at least once a day of what you love about yourself. It can be one thing or two. If you have a hard time looking yourself in front of the mirror, there’s an alternative way (that’s me). What I would do, I typically tell myself like, “Thanks gad, I have such a good sense of humor. If anyone doesn’t get me, only I can get myself laugh or giggle.” I usually tell myself a few positive things daily. It gets me hype up. It may take a while to love myself wholly. It’s difficult but it’s a good place to start with if this is something you’re struggling. Little things will always make you happy even though you may not notice it. I know I do.
I don’t always reflect on myself in the past to what I am today. I am quite proud of myself to where I am right now. Sometimes reflecting on yourself ain’t always good if the past can trigger moments you don’t want to reflect on. However, it may give you a sense of proudness and optimism because you literally grew from your own experiences. Without the experiences you had before, you wouldn’t be where you are right now. Like hard-core adulting. You’ll be looking out in the streets and see a bunch middle school kids trying to start a fight for the video. You’re shaking your head like what’s in the world with the new generation (using GIF of Jacket Chan, if you know what GIF I’m talking about). So take a time of reflection and applaud yourself.
Take a day off! If you truly going through a rough patch, stay home and focus on yourself. Do what you need to do. Back in the day, I used to draw and paint to express myself emotionally. I felt that was an outlet for me and I didn’t have to express to anyone but myself. Sometimes, it is okay to vent or rant to someone else other than yourself; but it’s a good feeling when you find something, you feel like you’re connected within self. Find something that you enjoy. It can be reading or a hobby that makes you happy.
It may not work for many of you but these helpful tips are what I came up based on my own experiences. I hope these help you and if you have any other questions or tips to add for the readers, please leave the comment below! Don’t be afraid and help out the community, y’all. Anywoo, catch a glimpse of Haya later 🙂