26 Things I’ve Learned About Life as a 26 Years Old

Sorry for the lack of writing posts for the last few Mondays. I have to put it on pause and focus on what I needed to do. So many things happened but not a whole lot. I wrote this post on the first day of August, my birthday month and I will continue writing until the day before I turn 27. Can you believe it? Time certainly went by fast. As 26 years old, I feel like I didn’t do much to help or improve myself, you know? I honestly felt that nothing has changed; nothing too major about myself except dying my hair. I mean, I got a new job that I’ve grown to love working, I moved back home to help my family, my sister is having a baby boy THIS month, and etc. On top of that, I have a lot of things in my mind lately. Not necessary in a bad way, but at least I am constantly thinking of something. I thought it would interesting to do this post because I do want to see if I actually did learn something as being a 26 years old gal. So, why not?

  1. Getting the hang of your finances. This year has been the hardest for me. I was struggling with finance. Money is always been a huge, huge factor in my life ever since I started working. I know this could relate to anyone. I know that I will continue to struggle with it, but in the end, I’ll know that I will eventually figure out to manage my finances better.
  2. Friends come and go, and that’s okay. I don’t have a lot of friends and that’s okay with me. I have friends who care and will always have my back if anything.
  3. Always be optimistic about everything. There’s nothing wrong with being positive in any bad situation. Every time I’m in a difficult situation, I’ve always kept my head up high and know that in the end, everything will be alright.
  4. Own your mistakes. it’s not the cowardness. If you own up your mistake, you “woman” up. If another person doesn’t recognize that you’re literally owning up your shiet, they’re too caught up with their own lies and in denial. Every time I made a mistake, I always apologize for my own mistakes. It literally makes myself feel better the fact that I own up my own shiet, it’s like a brick off my shoulders.
  5. Never take your family for granted. I cherished every moment with them and I’ve always made sure that I’ll be available for them as much as I can.
  6. Don’t revolve your life with social media. I stopped using Facebook (deactivated), and it was a life-changing moment for me at least. I actually look what is in front of me and be in the present of what is going on in front of me. I may be going back to Facebook eventually but I cannot predict when though.
  7. Make things happen, don’t just sit around and think about it. If there’s something that you want to do, do it! Don’t wait until someone tells you to do so. BUT, do it on your own terms. img_3924.jpg
  8. Less is more. I can honestly tell you that I feel I have a lot of things in my room. I am slowly trying to get rid of things that I don’t need. I can donate or throw it away. You’ll feel better when everything is in place. I’ll be more focused once I can get rid of things off my plate.
  9. Make your bed every day. Seriously, yes I’ve slacked off making my bed but once you do it every morning after using the bathroom or having breakfast. You can check off one task first thing in the morning and you feel accomplished.
  10. Be honest with yourself and everyone. Be kind to yourself and don’t force yourself to make someone happy. You should make yourself happy and less stressful if you tell the truth. I find that telling the truth is liberating and you should try it.
  11. Don’t be so hard on yourself. Take it easy. Pace yourself and everything will be alright. When things aren’t looking up, I put myself down so many times yet, I try to stay positive. It’s okay, give yourself some TLC
  12. Save your money! Trust me, you’ll thank yourself in the future.
  13. Treat yourself every now and then. Get some new clothes, shoes. Maybe throw in some rings and earrings as well.
  14. Don’t compare yourself to others. You are worth it.
  15. Laughter is the best medicine. Loosen up a little bit. Don’t be serious about everything. You have a long life ahead of you.
  16. It’s okay to have carbs. You can still be healthy but sometimes, you need carbs in your life. I know I do.
  17. Learn from the past and then let it go. You have to make the mistakes yourself in order to learn from them. Once you figured out your mistake, let it go. You don’t need to focus on the past when you’re in the present. You miss all the fun and what is in front of you.
  18. Quality trumps quantity. Always 100%.
  19. Be kind to others. Say hello, thank you, you’re welcome. Be polite.
  20. It’s okay if you go to bed before 10pm. We had a long day and sleeping in early is the best feeling. THE best.
  21. Take a picture. And treasure that day you took a picture.
  22. Do not hold grudges. You’ll feel better once you let it go and you do not need that grudges at all! I’ve learned the hard way.
  23. Say no like you mean it. They will understand. I hate the thought of saying no but when you don’t want to do it or feel uncomfortable. Just say no.
  24. Skincare. Try a good skincare to take care of your skin. I’m trying new things and looking for a right product for my skin. I’m in a hunt for good skincare if y’all know a good one.
  25. Go out on a date with your partner. Sometimes, we will try new things to keep us active such as a batting cage. That was fun. I’m always looking forward to trying new things with my boyfriend. Or even better, try new food places!
  26. Create things as you go. I always find a way to keep my creativity growing. I would make time for my self-creativity to come out. I even try calligraphy and I’m struggling with it but it’s kinda pretty awesome that I am learning calligraphy.

It was hard coming up with 26 things that I’ve learned so far. Be yourself and have fun. You’re still growing and you’ll never stop learning new things. Anywoo, catch a glimpse of Haya later :).

Imperfection For Perfect

Anniversary Date: July 9, 2016

To be honest, I feel like I knew him longer than just 2 to 3 years. He’s like my best friend in a way. We annoy the hell out of each other but still give love as well. We have ups and downs. But that is a normal standard for most couples.

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I have to say, I learned a lot from our relationship. There were a lot of moments where we don’t get each other clearly and get heated up, and there were a lot of moments of laughter, serious conversation, and just being corny on complimenting each other. For that, I am grateful to have him as part of my life. I’m grateful for the support system we have together and I know we have a lot of things to learn; from each other and from ourselves as well. There are times where I wouldn’t communicate and refuse to talk about it until the storm passed. I appreciated the fact that he still stands by my side when I didn’t want to talk about it at that moment

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I love the fact that we keep it real; show our ugliness and our vulnerability. The fact that we have to learn how to cope and how to show support for one another. This shows me like he can put up with my problems even though it was none of his businesses.

Like I said, I feel like I knew him longer. I am looking forward to our ups and downs. Plus many other things we have in front of each other and ourselves. I admit that we’re aren’t perfect but we’re both imperfect for each other (corny, right?). Relationships aren’t easy, I can tell you that. Just remember, always communicate and give support no matter what the situation is. AND appreciate one another as well. Anywoo, catch a glimpse of Haya 🙂

 

Deaf Identity

I didn’t discover my identity until college. I thought I was normal with two hearing aids and thinking that oh! Hearing people are better than Deaf people. I guess you can say that when I was in high school, I tried to be “better” than my own Deaf peer group. I was mainstreamed since elementary (placed in hearing slash normal classes). I had speech therapy, basically from elementary to high school. In my mind, I never truly accept the term, “Deaf”. It makes me feel dehumanizing in some ways. People look at you differently, treat you differently, and speak to you differently. And I didn’t like that.

I put myself in a higher expectation than my own parent’s because I wanted to show everyone, not just my family that I can do what normal people can do. Except for one thing, I cannot hear very well. Some certain people do not understand that even though you do know how to speak, that doesn’t mean you can hear well too. Like, hello. I still need to work myself in ‘hearing’ you.

My best friend and I used to talk each other in simcom, simultaneous communication. We basically identified ourselves as Hard-of-Hearing folks because we can talk at the same time, signing. We were like the coolest people out of our own group. You know how when you were young, you just trying to figure out where you fit in this small group and then, label yourself something to make yourself looks cooler than other people. I was like that. I thought being cooler will make people like me despite that I am Deaf.

I remember going into classes, I get embarrassed that I had to sit down in front of the classes for the interpreters when I wanted to sit all the way in the back. I wanted to hide instead of just standing out and have them saying behind my back, “She’s Deaf?” “Shouldn’t she be in Special class?” It’s annoying that I need to step up my standard to show them I don’t need to be in special class or I don’t define myself based on my hearing problem. I have a lot to offer.

I used to have a lot of hearing friends back in high school. Just acknowledged them mostly. Only a few friends that I knew doesn’t look at me based on my Deafness but look at me as a human being. It’s rare because teenagers judge so much that they want to make sure they’re cool enough.

So before, I transferred to CSUN (my Alma Mater) majoring Deaf Studies. I wanted to become a teacher for the DHH someday.  This is where I actually discovered my true identity. I didn’t know much about Deaf Culture, nor Deaf Community as well. I was overwhelmed with the history, resources, and the people. Once I learned about Deaf Culture, I started to truly accept my Deafness. The Deaf part is what defined me. Having hearing aids doesn’t but to show that I am Deaf, I was proud to call myself Deaf.

I signed more than I used to before living with my parents. I got involved with a lot of Deaf events and community. It was amazing to see different people from different background, coming together and actually have something in common. Now, I educate about my culture to hearing people who may not know about Deaf people. I know there are a whole lot of Deaf communities all over the countries and it is not just one country. I embraced my Deafness with the people I socialize with and expose my boyfriend into knowing about Deaf Culture/Community.

With this passion and knowledge about Deaf Culture and my identity, it motivates me to continue my journey in becoming a teacher. I know I will have to face obstacles, but I need to tell myself that I should not give up. I am still learning. I am still learning about everything that is relevant to my identity. If a person asks me this question, “Do you regret being Deaf or being born Deaf?” I will say no. I do not regret one bit. It becomes a part of me, makes me who I am today. Whatever identity you identify yourself, don’t be afraid to tell people who you are. Don’t let people put you down where you should be ashamed. Be proud of your culture  (multi-culture) slash identity. Be proud of who you are. Stand up tall and show your pride. Embrace it!

Catch a glimpse of Haya later 🙂

Thoughts of Moving Out

Inside the world of my thoughts.

“Shiet.”

“Think positive. Everything will be alright.”

“I’m moving out for some good reasons: saving money, helping out my parents, focusing more on what I need to do for myself.”

“Eh, it’s not a bad idea.”

“Eh, maybe it is. At some point, I’ll suffocate.”

“AHHHHHHHHHHhhhhhahahhhhhhhhhhhhh.”

“What about my freedom/my independence?”

“I’m going to miss driving everywhere every time I’m craving for food.”

Looking around the living room and see Lance in his own little world on the floor.

Awh, I’m going to miss Lance and his weirdness. Look at his long legs!”

“I’m going to miss this huge space. Coz’ I know it’ll be small when I move in back home.”

Fake crying on that thought.

“What about my work? Gotta think about the miles and hours.”

“At least, I got some excuse to stay longer or sleepover.” “Pothativeth thinkink.”

“Meh, at least I only work in the afternoon every day. Should be fine.”

“Well, during night time…Probably going wait until the traffic wind down.”

“I think I have a lot of things to bring.”

“My parents need to get rid of a lot of things before I bring them down there.”

“I need to donate most of my clothes. I don’t even wear half of my closet.”

I started making a list of what to do.

“I need to reserve a u-haul. I need to ask my boss for a request day off.”

“I need to start saving more money instead of buying food…Should I get acai bowl, though? That sounds actually pretty good right now…”

“I need to start organizing my shit especially things that I don’t even use at all.”

“I need to remind my roommates about the day I’ll be moving out.”

“Mama needs to get rid of her scrubs or send it to the Philippines.”

“I need to get my shiet and life together.”

I got distracted.

“What should I eat before work?”

“I want spam and egg with rice…”

“Why I have so many books in the storage?”

“Should I stop by Targets?”

“I need to finish this level on Genies & Gems game.”

“I honestly don’t think I have a lot of things from here…Seriously…Maybe…”

Burp.

“Excuse me.”

Stay tuned for a glimpse of Haya 🙂

 

 

 

 

What My Personality Type is? (Long Post)

If you want to read this post, please make yourself comfortable. Since this will be a long post, have a cuppa coffee or lay down on your bed and relax. Hope you’ll find this post interesting enough (fingers crossed).

My personality type is Advocate (INFJ-A).

I was wondering what I should blog next and then I thought about taking a personality type quiz. I was curious if it changes or it remains the same. It seems that it changed since the last time I took a personality type and I remember that it wasn’t Advocate at first. It was pretty awesome. The quiz will only take about 12 minutes or less of your time to take it. You have an option if you want your result to be sent to via your email or you can read ahead.

Basically, being as an advocate type, it is very rare for most people to have this kind of type. Being an advocate, I like to help others and that satisfied me knowing that I helped someone with a situation or problems. It’s funny because when I see my parents helping other people, it sets my future career goal. My dad worked with adult clients that had disabilities and my mom worked at the hospital as CNA (Certified Nurse Assistant). With that perspective, I wanted to grow up as a nurse like my mom or a teacher for Deaf and Hard-of-Hearing children.

I am a soft-spoken person (people have a hard time hearing me because I talk so soft and low) They’ll be like, “Huh? Say again? Sorry, I didn’t hear that.” And I have to turn the volume of my voice up enough for them to hear me. However, I do have a strong opinion on things and I stand on my ground for whatever I believe in until someone at least proves me wrong. When I read the word, egalitarianism and looked up what it means: relating to, or believing in the principle that all people are equal and deserve equal rights and opportunities. I was like whoa, how did you know that?! I honestly felt the same way because people deserve a chance to be acknowledged and be recognized for what they do. And not a lot of people gets that, Not only that, Karma. Oh, Karma and I have a longer relationship than my own relationship and friendships. My birthday month is August and symbolized “8”. What comes around comes back around again. Whatever an event happens will happen again in a similar situation. It will always be there and following everywhere I go.

Even though I like to help others and I need my own time slash space. I will always try my best to find time to spend time with others and that gives me a difficult time to find quality time with myself alone. I know I need to try better in spending quality time with me, myself, and I. Another thing that I need to take care of myself as well. When to the point I can’t handle anything, I get everything out of proportional. Which is a bad habit of myself and letting that happens in front of others. I always apologize once I calm down after a few minutes.

Strengths and Weaknesses

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Strengths of Advocate type:

  • Creative – with fair imagination with a strong sense of compassion, I’ll use my creativity to solve problems in a realistic way. Especially with helping with someone with their issues.
  • Insightful – being able to have an honest discussion with others and see how events and people are connected in order to get to the heart of the matter.
  • Inspiring and Convincing – useful with words and able to persuade people. I don’t think I am a good speaker but I try my best to inspire people.
  • Decisive – I am very adamant about my decision and I tends to follow through. Even the plan fails, I always have a backup plan.
  • Determined and Passionate – I’m very determined to reach the goals I made for myself and passionate about what I do and put in anything.
  • Altruistic – It means showing a disinterested and selfless concern for the well-being of others’ unselfish. I do have strong beliefs and try to put into action and not because I’m trying to get ahead of myself but to put out an idea out there and believe that idea would make the world a better place.

Weaknesses of Advocate type:

  • Sensitive – When someones criticize me or talk over me, I get sensitive easily. I quiet down, making everything awkward.
  • Extremely Private – I am an open-minded person but I may not be too extremely private. I am private enough with most of my personal life. I share only a few people who I am close to.  I do have trust issues based on my own personal experiences.
  • Perfectionist – Oh, I have several things that makes me a perfectionist.
  • Always Need to Have a Cause – I must have a goal that has an outcome to it. If there are no results in what I do, what the point of me to continue? (there is no goal at all, they will feel restless and disappointed). 
  • Can Burn Out Easily – I get tired very easily. Even though I don’t do much or I do a lot of things in one day, I burn out easily mainly, mentally.

Relationships with an Advocate type

Oh, my gulay. When I read the section of ‘Advocate Relationship,’ I agreed on all of it. When I’m in a relationship, I’m pretty serious. Currently, I am in a relationship and it’s been one year and nine months. We knew each other one or two years prior getting together. Once I found him, I look at him imaging on what it is like to be with him in a long-term. I look past his flaws, accepting that it is part of him. If he wants to mend some flaws of his, I will give him my full support. He and I are supportive of each other and try our best to stay authentic with each other; telling each other honestly and learning to accept the truth. We both look at each other for emotional support and embraces that part of us. It literally strengthens the relationship we have since we’re both passionate people. When it comes to intimacy, Advocates cherish not just the act of being in a relationship, but what it means to become one with another person, in mind, body, and soul.

Friendships

I make mostly close friends because nowadays, you do not need 800+ friends to make your life better nor easier. Although, it will take a while for me to get know people. I like to connect people with similar interests. No, this doesn’t mean like oh, I think I like you in that way. That goes every people I connect/interact with. I tend to avoid people who are egoistic or talking over other people. If I want to get to know the person, be yourself naturally. I agreed with this statement, quality trumps quantity every time, and over the years they will likely end up with just a few true friendships, built on a richness of mutual understanding that forges an indelible link between them.I always tell this to people spending quality time is more important than how many times. I even tell this to my boyfriend, haha.

I’ll skip the parenthood, careers, and workplace habits to get to the conclusion. There are so many things I want to point out but I don’t want to make this post even longer and boring for you guys ><

I’ll quote a statement that describes an Advocate I am, right now.

You may have muttered to yourself, “wow, this is so accurate it’s a little creepy” or “finally, someone understands me!” You may have even asked “how do they know more about me than the people I’m closest to?”  like dude, staph analyzing my brain!

So yeah, that was pretty interesting to know! If you like to know what your personality type is, take this link: https://www.16personalities.com/  and take it 🙂 If you like to share your personality type, please do comment! I wonder if you’re thinking the same way I was thinking when I take this test. Well, catch a glimpse of Haya later.