26 Things I’ve Learned About Life as a 26 Years Old

Sorry for the lack of writing posts for the last few Mondays. I have to put it on pause and focus on what I needed to do. So many things happened but not a whole lot. I wrote this post on the first day of August, my birthday month and I will continue writing until the day before I turn 27. Can you believe it? Time certainly went by fast. As 26 years old, I feel like I didn’t do much to help or improve myself, you know? I honestly felt that nothing has changed; nothing too major about myself except dying my hair. I mean, I got a new job that I’ve grown to love working, I moved back home to help my family, my sister is having a baby boy THIS month, and etc. On top of that, I have a lot of things in my mind lately. Not necessary in a bad way, but at least I am constantly thinking of something. I thought it would interesting to do this post because I do want to see if I actually did learn something as being a 26 years old gal. So, why not?

  1. Getting the hang of your finances. This year has been the hardest for me. I was struggling with finance. Money is always been a huge, huge factor in my life ever since I started working. I know this could relate to anyone. I know that I will continue to struggle with it, but in the end, I’ll know that I will eventually figure out to manage my finances better.
  2. Friends come and go, and that’s okay. I don’t have a lot of friends and that’s okay with me. I have friends who care and will always have my back if anything.
  3. Always be optimistic about everything. There’s nothing wrong with being positive in any bad situation. Every time I’m in a difficult situation, I’ve always kept my head up high and know that in the end, everything will be alright.
  4. Own your mistakes. it’s not the cowardness. If you own up your mistake, you “woman” up. If another person doesn’t recognize that you’re literally owning up your shiet, they’re too caught up with their own lies and in denial. Every time I made a mistake, I always apologize for my own mistakes. It literally makes myself feel better the fact that I own up my own shiet, it’s like a brick off my shoulders.
  5. Never take your family for granted. I cherished every moment with them and I’ve always made sure that I’ll be available for them as much as I can.
  6. Don’t revolve your life with social media. I stopped using Facebook (deactivated), and it was a life-changing moment for me at least. I actually look what is in front of me and be in the present of what is going on in front of me. I may be going back to Facebook eventually but I cannot predict when though.
  7. Make things happen, don’t just sit around and think about it. If there’s something that you want to do, do it! Don’t wait until someone tells you to do so. BUT, do it on your own terms. img_3924.jpg
  8. Less is more. I can honestly tell you that I feel I have a lot of things in my room. I am slowly trying to get rid of things that I don’t need. I can donate or throw it away. You’ll feel better when everything is in place. I’ll be more focused once I can get rid of things off my plate.
  9. Make your bed every day. Seriously, yes I’ve slacked off making my bed but once you do it every morning after using the bathroom or having breakfast. You can check off one task first thing in the morning and you feel accomplished.
  10. Be honest with yourself and everyone. Be kind to yourself and don’t force yourself to make someone happy. You should make yourself happy and less stressful if you tell the truth. I find that telling the truth is liberating and you should try it.
  11. Don’t be so hard on yourself. Take it easy. Pace yourself and everything will be alright. When things aren’t looking up, I put myself down so many times yet, I try to stay positive. It’s okay, give yourself some TLC
  12. Save your money! Trust me, you’ll thank yourself in the future.
  13. Treat yourself every now and then. Get some new clothes, shoes. Maybe throw in some rings and earrings as well.
  14. Don’t compare yourself to others. You are worth it.
  15. Laughter is the best medicine. Loosen up a little bit. Don’t be serious about everything. You have a long life ahead of you.
  16. It’s okay to have carbs. You can still be healthy but sometimes, you need carbs in your life. I know I do.
  17. Learn from the past and then let it go. You have to make the mistakes yourself in order to learn from them. Once you figured out your mistake, let it go. You don’t need to focus on the past when you’re in the present. You miss all the fun and what is in front of you.
  18. Quality trumps quantity. Always 100%.
  19. Be kind to others. Say hello, thank you, you’re welcome. Be polite.
  20. It’s okay if you go to bed before 10pm. We had a long day and sleeping in early is the best feeling. THE best.
  21. Take a picture. And treasure that day you took a picture.
  22. Do not hold grudges. You’ll feel better once you let it go and you do not need that grudges at all! I’ve learned the hard way.
  23. Say no like you mean it. They will understand. I hate the thought of saying no but when you don’t want to do it or feel uncomfortable. Just say no.
  24. Skincare. Try a good skincare to take care of your skin. I’m trying new things and looking for a right product for my skin. I’m in a hunt for good skincare if y’all know a good one.
  25. Go out on a date with your partner. Sometimes, we will try new things to keep us active such as a batting cage. That was fun. I’m always looking forward to trying new things with my boyfriend. Or even better, try new food places!
  26. Create things as you go. I always find a way to keep my creativity growing. I would make time for my self-creativity to come out. I even try calligraphy and I’m struggling with it but it’s kinda pretty awesome that I am learning calligraphy.

It was hard coming up with 26 things that I’ve learned so far. Be yourself and have fun. You’re still growing and you’ll never stop learning new things. Anywoo, catch a glimpse of Haya later :).

Imperfection For Perfect

Anniversary Date: July 9, 2016

To be honest, I feel like I knew him longer than just 2 to 3 years. He’s like my best friend in a way. We annoy the hell out of each other but still give love as well. We have ups and downs. But that is a normal standard for most couples.

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I have to say, I learned a lot from our relationship. There were a lot of moments where we don’t get each other clearly and get heated up, and there were a lot of moments of laughter, serious conversation, and just being corny on complimenting each other. For that, I am grateful to have him as part of my life. I’m grateful for the support system we have together and I know we have a lot of things to learn; from each other and from ourselves as well. There are times where I wouldn’t communicate and refuse to talk about it until the storm passed. I appreciated the fact that he still stands by my side when I didn’t want to talk about it at that moment

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I love the fact that we keep it real; show our ugliness and our vulnerability. The fact that we have to learn how to cope and how to show support for one another. This shows me like he can put up with my problems even though it was none of his businesses.

Like I said, I feel like I knew him longer. I am looking forward to our ups and downs. Plus many other things we have in front of each other and ourselves. I admit that we’re aren’t perfect but we’re both imperfect for each other (corny, right?). Relationships aren’t easy, I can tell you that. Just remember, always communicate and give support no matter what the situation is. AND appreciate one another as well. Anywoo, catch a glimpse of Haya 🙂

 

How To Save Money on Food

HOW? How? Hooooooowwwwwww?

Internally fighting off all the possible fast food places popping up in my head.

It’s really simple. So simple. Yes, it is THAT simple.

You can-NOT depend on Mcdonald (a large french fries and a happy meal of 4 pieces chicken nuggets with two sweet ‘n’ sour sauce) forever. I know it’s hard and it’s hard for me too! Believe me or I wouldn’t even post this “How to save money on food.” Most of the millennial generation grew up eating mickey-d’s, burger king, Church chicken (better than Popeyes) or Chinese food because you know, it is cheap and it is freaking delicious for most of us. I ain’t gonna lie. My parents used to drive to mickey-d’s and ordered a dozen of cheeseburgers because it’s cheap and they didn’t have to cook (plus my sister kinda persuaded me to convince my parents to get us McDonald’s. I was young, okay! my sister was a bad influence at that time, using my ‘baby begging face’ to convince them). Nowadays, we’re becoming more conscious of what we eat.

Now that I am 26. I noticed myself eating more organic food such as non-preservatives, non-processed food, and more vegetables. I do still eat some fast food once in a while but most of the time, avoiding them if I want to maintain a healthy life for myself. I started cooking more at home and who doesn’t love the homemade food at home?! My roommates’ homemade food is always the bomb and better than at restaurants, cause like they put their heart and soul into making this delicious homemade shieeet.

Number 1: Limit the wants and focus on the needs.

We all have cravings, especially the wants whenever you go to the grocery store or food place. Let’s say you have 25 dollars. That’s enough to get yourself a combo at a panda express with a medium drink, maybe an extra side as well. Then again, that’s 25 dollars in one day go to waste. Be rational. You can literally use up 25 dollars for just a week.

Number 2: Get food items that can last you for a while or food plan.

What I mean like get food that you know you would eat it every day or at least every other day. Oh, psst. Leftover is totally OK. Normally, I would go to the store and start thinking okay, If I want to save money for the week or at least two weeks, I make lists. For instance, I love breakfast and I always make sure that I get the most of my morning time. I would get bagels, eggs, greek yogurt, and little bits to incorporate with other things. You see where I’m going along with this? You making a food plan for a week is awesome, which is another thing I should do every time. Visualize your food plan and don’t waste it. This is where the leftover comes in. I know some of you would be like, ew. Who will eat the leftovers? Uh, this girl over here! I don’t mind as long it looks appetizing. If it’s old or you know you’re not gonna eat it after having it once, offer to your roommates or family members BEFORE you threw it out. They’ll be grateful and you’ll be grateful as well.

Number 3: What’s for dinner?

Tired of seeing your fridge all piled up with food that is for breakfast or lunch or even leftovers? Don’t even try to stock up in the fridge. I’ve seen it and annoyed the heck of me and I know I’m not the only one. My suggestion is to get ingredients that you know you will use it on the same night to make your dinner. So that way, you don’t have to stuff it in back in the fridge until tomorrow or even a couple of days. Use it up in one day so that you’re not wasting the ingredients.

Number 4: Pitching in!

Another way to save money on food is pitching in with your roommates, friends or family members in buying ingredients. If y’all gonna get coffee creamer or milk, pitch in with someone who also drinks coffee! If y’all doing taco night, pitch in with whoever will be eating tacos with you. Even with drinks! Pitching in is the best way to save your money. The last time I pitched in for taco night, I only have to pay less than 10 dollars. That’s all included with meats and sides (insert the gasp face emoji). I know, right?! So incredible to save that much! This is why I like pitching in.

Number 5: Don’t be afraid to splurge a little.

There are days where you want to buy food you wanted but you know you come into the store with a sole purpose. If there is an item that you want to try to see if it is good, GO FOR IT. Nothing’s wrong with trying different things. I know I do. It is okay to go a little over your budget but control yourself. You don’t want to end up with a negative in your bank account. I know this blog post was supposed to be on how to save money on food, so try to stay on track on what you’re planning to do with food shopping and staying on your budget.

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I hope these numbers of list helps you and the next time you go to a grocery store, you have that clear mindset on how you will save money 🙂 Any questions or comments, I’ll be more to oblige to help you out! Catch a glimpse of Haya later.

 

Binge Much?

Is it just me that the days are getting longer yet the hours are quicker?

Maybe…maybe not. But I don’t know about you, I’ve been bingeing so much lately and it’s a good thing for me. Since it is summer season and there are a lot of things that I am looking forward to 🙂 I am excited! Happy Monday to you all!

Anywoo! We all get sucked into the world of Netflix, Hulu or even Amazon Prime, I’m sure and it is so hard to not binge when it is so close to bedtime. You find yourself looking at the time in the dark and shook yourself that it was already 3am. You curse yourself and force yourself to sleep because you have work in the morning. That’s pretty much me sometimes. When I find a show that I really like, like really likes the show so much that I binge so hard. I tell myself daily that I need to start organizing my shiet before watching my show.

A few days ago, I just finished watching a TV show called “Lucifer” on Hulu and man, it is good. I personally like to watch fantasy slash crime type of shows because it makes everything so interesting. I finished that show less than 3 weeks. I KNOW. I know. You’re thinking “Omg, HAYA.” or “Damn girl, you have no life when it comes to bingeing.” I know, I couldn’t agree with you more. It’s a bad habit and I’m pretty sure y’all do that too! Hopefully, Netflix will add season 4 for Lucifer” since the show itself got canceled on FOX channel. (fingers crossed). Now, I’m catching up with “Wynonna Earp” on Netflix season 2. I should stop, don’t I? (telling myself to start prioritizing again).

There’s nothing wrong with watching Netflix or Hulu and chill on your bed. I mean honestly, that’s how I do #Hayaflop right there. However, it’s taking away your priorities. It’s a distraction if you have your show on in front of you. I’ve been telling myself not to do that and you ended by telling yourself 5 more minutes with the show or at least the episode ends. But then again, there’s nothing wrong with that.

Not to worry, next week Monday’s post will be better 🙂 Thank you for taking your time of the day and I appreciate you so much! Catch a glimpse of Haya later.

 

How to Motivate Yourself to Clean Up Your Room

For the past few days (okay, I lied.) For the past week, I’ve procrastinated myself from cleaning up my room. Why? I just recently moved in from upstairs apartment to one-floor apartment with my parents. Let me tell you, it is H-A-R-D. I know myself that I should’ve cleaned up and gone through stuff to rid more things to save some space, but I didn’t. I tell myself every morning when I wake up and see all my stuff still on the floor, “Alright, Haya. You’ll need to figure where that stuff goes and start clearing the space on the floor.” I agonized myself every time when it comes to cleaning. Don’t get me wrong, I like to clean and like to be organized. The thoughts having my room minimized and look at these, it’s definitely not gonna be fast to get rid of things. And it’s the “watching tv while cleaning”‘s fault.

I’ve noticed that is happening with my parents. They had so many things they still keep from the old previous house we used to live in and all those things are in the garage. I know my dad isn’t the problem but mainly my mom. My sister and I were talking about this the other day and we definitely don’t want our parents to appear on a tv show called “Hoarders”.

On a serious note, It took me about 4 days and a half, I think. I felt I had so much stuff but by the end of the 4 days, it was mainly useless papers and books. I was so happy that I bought several cubby storage bins. And I was trying to make this room mine. I added few paintings that I did overtime up on the walls as well.

I still feel like I have too much stuff. Once in a while, I’ll see what I can get rid of and try to influence my parents into doing that. They need to!

So how do you motivate yourself into cleaning your room? Make a list. A list of what you need to do and what you want to do in cleaning. Divide that into possibly a day or for the weekend if you have no plans to go out anytime. Manage your time wisely. Make sure in between cleaning, you take your coffee/tea fix break, lunch break, and snack break. No distractions; avoid turning on your tv if you have one in your room. It. Will. Distracts. You. From. Cleaning. . .No phone unless you’re using your phone for Spotify or Pandora Music. Music Only! Imagine your layout of the room. Measure the size of your room, figure out where your things will go and think if it will fit. Minimize the ‘want’. Ask yourself this before you put things in the room, “Do I need this? Will I use it in the future? Will it benefits me?” So you don’t feel like you’re becoming like a hoarder and you don’t want to add more clutter in your room. Get a big trash bag. You’ll need it when it comes to shredding papers, plastic things, and expired products. Organize your shiet. Make a separate pile for you to see what to keep and what not to keep. It helps A LOT. I organized mails and I had a lot of mails in what not to keep pile.

I hope these tips help! It does for me and it is how I do it when it comes to cleaning my room. If you want to keep your room clean, start your day by cleaning up your bed. From there, you’ll have the motivation to do other things in the room :). Catch a glimpse of Haya later.

How Do You Show Yourself Love?

Life can get hectic sometimes. Even chaotic. How do you slow down and take the time to show yourself love? It should take at least 10 to 30 minutes of your day to indulge yourself, at least. Maybe more but it’s all up to you and how you show yourself love.

I don’t often love myself because I haven’t really truly love myself lately. I know it’s difficult for me because I’m always thinking of others than myself first. Which is bad because this is how I learned it from my parents when growing up. AND it is a bad idea if you’re just laying on the bed and playing candy crush on your phone. it’s a no-no.

Start treating yourself like you’re a queen or king. You deserve to be pampered. I don’t often treat myself like I’m a queen but I try to treat myself like I’m a princess. Like today this morning, I decided to pamper myself by doing a mud mask on me. Cause, why not? I haven’t done this to myself for a while nor doing the mud mask for a while. Do a nose peel and give your facial some love. Take a bath! A long, long bath. Get lush bath bomb while you get it and get fascinated with the colors spilling out into the water. Treat yourself once in a while (It’s also another mental note for me).

Tell yourself at least once a day of what you love about yourself. It can be one thing or two. If you have a hard time looking yourself in front of the mirror, there’s an alternative way (that’s me). What I would do, I typically tell myself like, “Thanks gad, I have such a good sense of humor. If anyone doesn’t get me, only I can get myself laugh or giggle.” I usually tell myself a few positive things daily. It gets me hype up. It may take a while to love myself wholly. It’s difficult but it’s a good place to start with if this is something you’re struggling. Little things will always make you happy even though you may not notice it. I know I do.

I don’t always reflect on myself in the past to what I am today. I am quite proud of myself to where I am right now. Sometimes reflecting on yourself ain’t always good if the past can trigger moments you don’t want to reflect on. However, it may give you a sense of proudness and optimism because you literally grew from your own experiences. Without the experiences you had before, you wouldn’t be where you are right now. Like hard-core adulting. You’ll be looking out in the streets and see a bunch middle school kids trying to start a fight for the video. You’re shaking your head like what’s in the world with the new generation (using GIF of Jacket Chan, if you know what GIF I’m talking about). So take a time of reflection and applaud yourself.

Take a day off! If you truly going through a rough patch, stay home and focus on yourself. Do what you need to do. Back in the day, I used to draw and paint to express myself emotionally. I felt that was an outlet for me and I didn’t have to express to anyone but myself. Sometimes, it is okay to vent or rant to someone else other than yourself; but it’s a good feeling when you find something, you feel like you’re connected within self. Find something that you enjoy. It can be reading or a hobby that makes you happy.

It may not work for many of you but these helpful tips are what I came up based on my own experiences. I hope these help you and if you have any other questions or tips to add for the readers, please leave the comment below! Don’t be afraid and help out the community, y’all. Anywoo, catch a glimpse of Haya later 🙂

Deaf Identity

I didn’t discover my identity until college. I thought I was normal with two hearing aids and thinking that oh! Hearing people are better than Deaf people. I guess you can say that when I was in high school, I tried to be “better” than my own Deaf peer group. I was mainstreamed since elementary (placed in hearing slash normal classes). I had speech therapy, basically from elementary to high school. In my mind, I never truly accept the term, “Deaf”. It makes me feel dehumanizing in some ways. People look at you differently, treat you differently, and speak to you differently. And I didn’t like that.

I put myself in a higher expectation than my own parent’s because I wanted to show everyone, not just my family that I can do what normal people can do. Except for one thing, I cannot hear very well. Some certain people do not understand that even though you do know how to speak, that doesn’t mean you can hear well too. Like, hello. I still need to work myself in ‘hearing’ you.

My best friend and I used to talk each other in simcom, simultaneous communication. We basically identified ourselves as Hard-of-Hearing folks because we can talk at the same time, signing. We were like the coolest people out of our own group. You know how when you were young, you just trying to figure out where you fit in this small group and then, label yourself something to make yourself looks cooler than other people. I was like that. I thought being cooler will make people like me despite that I am Deaf.

I remember going into classes, I get embarrassed that I had to sit down in front of the classes for the interpreters when I wanted to sit all the way in the back. I wanted to hide instead of just standing out and have them saying behind my back, “She’s Deaf?” “Shouldn’t she be in Special class?” It’s annoying that I need to step up my standard to show them I don’t need to be in special class or I don’t define myself based on my hearing problem. I have a lot to offer.

I used to have a lot of hearing friends back in high school. Just acknowledged them mostly. Only a few friends that I knew doesn’t look at me based on my Deafness but look at me as a human being. It’s rare because teenagers judge so much that they want to make sure they’re cool enough.

So before, I transferred to CSUN (my Alma Mater) majoring Deaf Studies. I wanted to become a teacher for the DHH someday.  This is where I actually discovered my true identity. I didn’t know much about Deaf Culture, nor Deaf Community as well. I was overwhelmed with the history, resources, and the people. Once I learned about Deaf Culture, I started to truly accept my Deafness. The Deaf part is what defined me. Having hearing aids doesn’t but to show that I am Deaf, I was proud to call myself Deaf.

I signed more than I used to before living with my parents. I got involved with a lot of Deaf events and community. It was amazing to see different people from different background, coming together and actually have something in common. Now, I educate about my culture to hearing people who may not know about Deaf people. I know there are a whole lot of Deaf communities all over the countries and it is not just one country. I embraced my Deafness with the people I socialize with and expose my boyfriend into knowing about Deaf Culture/Community.

With this passion and knowledge about Deaf Culture and my identity, it motivates me to continue my journey in becoming a teacher. I know I will have to face obstacles, but I need to tell myself that I should not give up. I am still learning. I am still learning about everything that is relevant to my identity. If a person asks me this question, “Do you regret being Deaf or being born Deaf?” I will say no. I do not regret one bit. It becomes a part of me, makes me who I am today. Whatever identity you identify yourself, don’t be afraid to tell people who you are. Don’t let people put you down where you should be ashamed. Be proud of your culture  (multi-culture) slash identity. Be proud of who you are. Stand up tall and show your pride. Embrace it!

Catch a glimpse of Haya later 🙂