Entirely Made of Flaws

“You are made entirely of flaws and that makes you beautiful. Your ‘flaws’ are simply part of you, they make you unique and they make you beautiful. don’t ever allow someone the power to make you feel weak because they might not like one of your qualities.” – Becca Martin, Thought Catalog

I know many of us do have a difficult time to really accept the flaw(s); flaws that are part of you. I can name a few things of mine that I had a hard time confronting. Normally, I would just brush it aside and sweep them under the rug as if they were specks of dust. But then again, you can’t really avoid it for a long time unless you come to accept them. Now, I am usually an optimistic person and I tell this to people that I know that it is okay to accept them. Cry it out or vent it out to make all things better. And if someone doesn’t like the way you are or how you address yourself, then it is their loss for not knowing you well enough to truly accept that.

I do know that we are entirely made of flaws and that’s the beauty part of being a human being. There is no such thing as a perfect human being, that if you’re wholly narcissistic. If it wasn’t for flaws, people would probably be boring with a boring personality. And living on earth would be the most boring place. I do admit I do not like some of my own flaws and yes, I struggled with them every single day. I don’t know if I can remember a day where I don’t think about my own flaws. It does pop up in your mind like a judgemental blob of yourself, bickering at you the things you should take or do.

One of my flaws is that I don’t stand up for myself often as I should. Especially with my age, I should be able to. However, I overanalyzed myself with things in front of me and come up with many scenarios before I can come up to do it. It does ticks me off when I know I should accept the outcomes and sometimes, I don’t want to accept it. I know I need to accept the truth and move on. I can’t go around, trying to find a better way to soften the blow or avoid from confronting the obstacles in front of me. I just need to face it and I do acknowledge that. I need to build that self-confidence back and try to be a better woman for me and myself only. Building self-confidence is a hard task for me to do. Being self-confidence is also to learn how to love me.

Learning to love myself, I am still stuck in that phase and yet, I tell people that they need some me time and self-care. I do self-care a lot but not the loving myself. I know how to take care of myself even though my life is a little messy sometimes. And loving myself is not easy. I focus on other people’s need and I help people. When it comes to myself, I motivate myself to do things then half-way there, I lost my motivation until they tell me to get on to it. This is something that is long-term for me and I do take my time. I know I am a very patient person so, I am in no rush.

I know a lot of us to like to fix certain things about ourselves. Sometimes, we just need to learn how to accept ourselves and our own flaws. Because we are entirely made of flaws, after all. There is no wrong or right thing about our flaws. Flaws are who we are. Without them, we couldn’t understand what is good and what is bad.

Another thing is that it will take some time to mend things slowly.

 

 

 

How Do You Show Yourself Love?

Life can get hectic sometimes. Even chaotic. How do you slow down and take the time to show yourself love? It should take at least 10 to 30 minutes of your day to indulge yourself, at least. Maybe more but it’s all up to you and how you show yourself love.

I don’t often love myself because I haven’t really truly love myself lately. I know it’s difficult for me because I’m always thinking of others than myself first. Which is bad because this is how I learned it from my parents when growing up. AND it is a bad idea if you’re just laying on the bed and playing candy crush on your phone. it’s a no-no.

Start treating yourself like you’re a queen or king. You deserve to be pampered. I don’t often treat myself like I’m a queen but I try to treat myself like I’m a princess. Like today this morning, I decided to pamper myself by doing a mud mask on me. Cause, why not? I haven’t done this to myself for a while nor doing the mud mask for a while. Do a nose peel and give your facial some love. Take a bath! A long, long bath. Get lush bath bomb while you get it and get fascinated with the colors spilling out into the water. Treat yourself once in a while (It’s also another mental note for me).

Tell yourself at least once a day of what you love about yourself. It can be one thing or two. If you have a hard time looking yourself in front of the mirror, there’s an alternative way (that’s me). What I would do, I typically tell myself like, “Thanks gad, I have such a good sense of humor. If anyone doesn’t get me, only I can get myself laugh or giggle.” I usually tell myself a few positive things daily. It gets me hype up. It may take a while to love myself wholly. It’s difficult but it’s a good place to start with if this is something you’re struggling. Little things will always make you happy even though you may not notice it. I know I do.

I don’t always reflect on myself in the past to what I am today. I am quite proud of myself to where I am right now. Sometimes reflecting on yourself ain’t always good if the past can trigger moments you don’t want to reflect on. However, it may give you a sense of proudness and optimism because you literally grew from your own experiences. Without the experiences you had before, you wouldn’t be where you are right now. Like hard-core adulting. You’ll be looking out in the streets and see a bunch middle school kids trying to start a fight for the video. You’re shaking your head like what’s in the world with the new generation (using GIF of Jacket Chan, if you know what GIF I’m talking about). So take a time of reflection and applaud yourself.

Take a day off! If you truly going through a rough patch, stay home and focus on yourself. Do what you need to do. Back in the day, I used to draw and paint to express myself emotionally. I felt that was an outlet for me and I didn’t have to express to anyone but myself. Sometimes, it is okay to vent or rant to someone else other than yourself; but it’s a good feeling when you find something, you feel like you’re connected within self. Find something that you enjoy. It can be reading or a hobby that makes you happy.

It may not work for many of you but these helpful tips are what I came up based on my own experiences. I hope these help you and if you have any other questions or tips to add for the readers, please leave the comment below! Don’t be afraid and help out the community, y’all. Anywoo, catch a glimpse of Haya later 🙂