Notice that I stated “less” instead of “more” in the title? You’ll see why.
Are you an introverted or extroverted person?
Or just a mixture of both? I believed I am a mixture of both. There are times where I just want to be by myself or have someone with me in solemn of silence while doing something. Actually, I’ve noticed that I am leaning more toward an extroverted person. I like trying new things. (more like trying new local food). Such as drinks or culture food. I like to try to find a challenge for myself to maintain an active lifestyle instead of just doing #Hayaflop time on the couch. I would try to find something to do instead of staying at home after work. For instance, going to Targets and stroll around or do window shopping when I know I only have less than 5 bucks in my bank. Something like that. At the end of the day, I usually find myself either catching up with my roommates with their days. After catching up with everyone, I either went back to the room to relax or sitting on the table with my laptop open and play music like I am doing right now.
However, there are times when you feel like meh, I just want to flop on the couch and be on my phone and snoop on what everyone been doing. You will find yourself comparing to other people and feel less festive than they are. It’s a bad habit over thinking that everyone is doing much better than you. Convert that thought. Think that even though it shows in the picture or video, they did have a crappy day. Not everyone is perfect. I know I’ve said this to many of my friends and it’s true. It is something to keep in mind even I have a shitty day, there is something good out of it. It is okay to have a shitty day. On the bright side, you can tell your roommates or friends about your shitty day.
It is okay to be introverted. It is okay to be extroverted. And it is okay to be both as well. There’s nothing right or wrong about being who you are. Give it some time and patience that is all we need.
Choose your others wisely
I like to keep my friends close. And it’s hard to find that group that you’re close enough to be comfortable around; being silly with them or have a really deep conversation. Nowadays, people who claim to be your friend, eventually fade. Fairly fast. I personally have trust issues. Peeling onions skin is not that easy. I usually let the person sign/talk first before I do because I do not want to give away information easily. If you are like me, I observe and analyze the person first. I only have a few or less that are trustworthy. I used to think that I had a lot of friends and thought it was cool to have 300+ friends. YAS, MySpace, y’all. And I don’t even interact MOST of those friends.
I just don’t think it is worthy of my time if someone just acknowledges my presence with friends we both know. The less, the merrier! Honestly, having a few close friends is good enough for me. I know those people. I know I can trust them enough that if ever I have a problem, they have my back. I know I will rely on their support as well. Don’t revolve your world around Drama either.
Not too long ago, I went a group of friends and my boyfriend to Big Bear trip and we stayed there for almost 4 days. It was a mixture of good and close friends. Definitely not bad at all. We learned to put our differences aside and learn about each other. The trip was much-needed; away from chaos. It was actually nice to have old times together and having dinner together. I believe dinner time was valuable for all of us. We gathered together to feast and spent quality time. I definitely miss the kabobs and simple jambalaya with the crispy street tacos.
I’ll cut this short and catch a glimpse of Haya next time 🙂