26 Things I’ve Learned About Life as a 26 Years Old

Sorry for the lack of writing posts for the last few Mondays. I have to put it on pause and focus on what I needed to do. So many things happened but not a whole lot. I wrote this post on the first day of August, my birthday month and I will continue writing until the day before I turn 27. Can you believe it? Time certainly went by fast. As 26 years old, I feel like I didn’t do much to help or improve myself, you know? I honestly felt that nothing has changed; nothing too major about myself except dying my hair. I mean, I got a new job that I’ve grown to love working, I moved back home to help my family, my sister is having a baby boy THIS month, and etc. On top of that, I have a lot of things in my mind lately. Not necessary in a bad way, but at least I am constantly thinking of something. I thought it would interesting to do this post because I do want to see if I actually did learn something as being a 26 years old gal. So, why not?

  1. Getting the hang of your finances. This year has been the hardest for me. I was struggling with finance. Money is always been a huge, huge factor in my life ever since I started working. I know this could relate to anyone. I know that I will continue to struggle with it, but in the end, I’ll know that I will eventually figure out to manage my finances better.
  2. Friends come and go, and that’s okay. I don’t have a lot of friends and that’s okay with me. I have friends who care and will always have my back if anything.
  3. Always be optimistic about everything. There’s nothing wrong with being positive in any bad situation. Every time I’m in a difficult situation, I’ve always kept my head up high and know that in the end, everything will be alright.
  4. Own your mistakes. it’s not the cowardness. If you own up your mistake, you “woman” up. If another person doesn’t recognize that you’re literally owning up your shiet, they’re too caught up with their own lies and in denial. Every time I made a mistake, I always apologize for my own mistakes. It literally makes myself feel better the fact that I own up my own shiet, it’s like a brick off my shoulders.
  5. Never take your family for granted. I cherished every moment with them and I’ve always made sure that I’ll be available for them as much as I can.
  6. Don’t revolve your life with social media. I stopped using Facebook (deactivated), and it was a life-changing moment for me at least. I actually look what is in front of me and be in the present of what is going on in front of me. I may be going back to Facebook eventually but I cannot predict when though.
  7. Make things happen, don’t just sit around and think about it. If there’s something that you want to do, do it! Don’t wait until someone tells you to do so. BUT, do it on your own terms. img_3924.jpg
  8. Less is more. I can honestly tell you that I feel I have a lot of things in my room. I am slowly trying to get rid of things that I don’t need. I can donate or throw it away. You’ll feel better when everything is in place. I’ll be more focused once I can get rid of things off my plate.
  9. Make your bed every day. Seriously, yes I’ve slacked off making my bed but once you do it every morning after using the bathroom or having breakfast. You can check off one task first thing in the morning and you feel accomplished.
  10. Be honest with yourself and everyone. Be kind to yourself and don’t force yourself to make someone happy. You should make yourself happy and less stressful if you tell the truth. I find that telling the truth is liberating and you should try it.
  11. Don’t be so hard on yourself. Take it easy. Pace yourself and everything will be alright. When things aren’t looking up, I put myself down so many times yet, I try to stay positive. It’s okay, give yourself some TLC
  12. Save your money! Trust me, you’ll thank yourself in the future.
  13. Treat yourself every now and then. Get some new clothes, shoes. Maybe throw in some rings and earrings as well.
  14. Don’t compare yourself to others. You are worth it.
  15. Laughter is the best medicine. Loosen up a little bit. Don’t be serious about everything. You have a long life ahead of you.
  16. It’s okay to have carbs. You can still be healthy but sometimes, you need carbs in your life. I know I do.
  17. Learn from the past and then let it go. You have to make the mistakes yourself in order to learn from them. Once you figured out your mistake, let it go. You don’t need to focus on the past when you’re in the present. You miss all the fun and what is in front of you.
  18. Quality trumps quantity. Always 100%.
  19. Be kind to others. Say hello, thank you, you’re welcome. Be polite.
  20. It’s okay if you go to bed before 10pm. We had a long day and sleeping in early is the best feeling. THE best.
  21. Take a picture. And treasure that day you took a picture.
  22. Do not hold grudges. You’ll feel better once you let it go and you do not need that grudges at all! I’ve learned the hard way.
  23. Say no like you mean it. They will understand. I hate the thought of saying no but when you don’t want to do it or feel uncomfortable. Just say no.
  24. Skincare. Try a good skincare to take care of your skin. I’m trying new things and looking for a right product for my skin. I’m in a hunt for good skincare if y’all know a good one.
  25. Go out on a date with your partner. Sometimes, we will try new things to keep us active such as a batting cage. That was fun. I’m always looking forward to trying new things with my boyfriend. Or even better, try new food places!
  26. Create things as you go. I always find a way to keep my creativity growing. I would make time for my self-creativity to come out. I even try calligraphy and I’m struggling with it but it’s kinda pretty awesome that I am learning calligraphy.

It was hard coming up with 26 things that I’ve learned so far. Be yourself and have fun. You’re still growing and you’ll never stop learning new things. Anywoo, catch a glimpse of Haya later :).

Imperfection For Perfect

Anniversary Date: July 9, 2016

To be honest, I feel like I knew him longer than just 2 to 3 years. He’s like my best friend in a way. We annoy the hell out of each other but still give love as well. We have ups and downs. But that is a normal standard for most couples.

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I have to say, I learned a lot from our relationship. There were a lot of moments where we don’t get each other clearly and get heated up, and there were a lot of moments of laughter, serious conversation, and just being corny on complimenting each other. For that, I am grateful to have him as part of my life. I’m grateful for the support system we have together and I know we have a lot of things to learn; from each other and from ourselves as well. There are times where I wouldn’t communicate and refuse to talk about it until the storm passed. I appreciated the fact that he still stands by my side when I didn’t want to talk about it at that moment

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I love the fact that we keep it real; show our ugliness and our vulnerability. The fact that we have to learn how to cope and how to show support for one another. This shows me like he can put up with my problems even though it was none of his businesses.

Like I said, I feel like I knew him longer. I am looking forward to our ups and downs. Plus many other things we have in front of each other and ourselves. I admit that we’re aren’t perfect but we’re both imperfect for each other (corny, right?). Relationships aren’t easy, I can tell you that. Just remember, always communicate and give support no matter what the situation is. AND appreciate one another as well. Anywoo, catch a glimpse of Haya 🙂

 

How To Save Money on Food

HOW? How? Hooooooowwwwwww?

Internally fighting off all the possible fast food places popping up in my head.

It’s really simple. So simple. Yes, it is THAT simple.

You can-NOT depend on Mcdonald (a large french fries and a happy meal of 4 pieces chicken nuggets with two sweet ‘n’ sour sauce) forever. I know it’s hard and it’s hard for me too! Believe me or I wouldn’t even post this “How to save money on food.” Most of the millennial generation grew up eating mickey-d’s, burger king, Church chicken (better than Popeyes) or Chinese food because you know, it is cheap and it is freaking delicious for most of us. I ain’t gonna lie. My parents used to drive to mickey-d’s and ordered a dozen of cheeseburgers because it’s cheap and they didn’t have to cook (plus my sister kinda persuaded me to convince my parents to get us McDonald’s. I was young, okay! my sister was a bad influence at that time, using my ‘baby begging face’ to convince them). Nowadays, we’re becoming more conscious of what we eat.

Now that I am 26. I noticed myself eating more organic food such as non-preservatives, non-processed food, and more vegetables. I do still eat some fast food once in a while but most of the time, avoiding them if I want to maintain a healthy life for myself. I started cooking more at home and who doesn’t love the homemade food at home?! My roommates’ homemade food is always the bomb and better than at restaurants, cause like they put their heart and soul into making this delicious homemade shieeet.

Number 1: Limit the wants and focus on the needs.

We all have cravings, especially the wants whenever you go to the grocery store or food place. Let’s say you have 25 dollars. That’s enough to get yourself a combo at a panda express with a medium drink, maybe an extra side as well. Then again, that’s 25 dollars in one day go to waste. Be rational. You can literally use up 25 dollars for just a week.

Number 2: Get food items that can last you for a while or food plan.

What I mean like get food that you know you would eat it every day or at least every other day. Oh, psst. Leftover is totally OK. Normally, I would go to the store and start thinking okay, If I want to save money for the week or at least two weeks, I make lists. For instance, I love breakfast and I always make sure that I get the most of my morning time. I would get bagels, eggs, greek yogurt, and little bits to incorporate with other things. You see where I’m going along with this? You making a food plan for a week is awesome, which is another thing I should do every time. Visualize your food plan and don’t waste it. This is where the leftover comes in. I know some of you would be like, ew. Who will eat the leftovers? Uh, this girl over here! I don’t mind as long it looks appetizing. If it’s old or you know you’re not gonna eat it after having it once, offer to your roommates or family members BEFORE you threw it out. They’ll be grateful and you’ll be grateful as well.

Number 3: What’s for dinner?

Tired of seeing your fridge all piled up with food that is for breakfast or lunch or even leftovers? Don’t even try to stock up in the fridge. I’ve seen it and annoyed the heck of me and I know I’m not the only one. My suggestion is to get ingredients that you know you will use it on the same night to make your dinner. So that way, you don’t have to stuff it in back in the fridge until tomorrow or even a couple of days. Use it up in one day so that you’re not wasting the ingredients.

Number 4: Pitching in!

Another way to save money on food is pitching in with your roommates, friends or family members in buying ingredients. If y’all gonna get coffee creamer or milk, pitch in with someone who also drinks coffee! If y’all doing taco night, pitch in with whoever will be eating tacos with you. Even with drinks! Pitching in is the best way to save your money. The last time I pitched in for taco night, I only have to pay less than 10 dollars. That’s all included with meats and sides (insert the gasp face emoji). I know, right?! So incredible to save that much! This is why I like pitching in.

Number 5: Don’t be afraid to splurge a little.

There are days where you want to buy food you wanted but you know you come into the store with a sole purpose. If there is an item that you want to try to see if it is good, GO FOR IT. Nothing’s wrong with trying different things. I know I do. It is okay to go a little over your budget but control yourself. You don’t want to end up with a negative in your bank account. I know this blog post was supposed to be on how to save money on food, so try to stay on track on what you’re planning to do with food shopping and staying on your budget.

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I hope these numbers of list helps you and the next time you go to a grocery store, you have that clear mindset on how you will save money 🙂 Any questions or comments, I’ll be more to oblige to help you out! Catch a glimpse of Haya later.

 

Binge Much?

Is it just me that the days are getting longer yet the hours are quicker?

Maybe…maybe not. But I don’t know about you, I’ve been bingeing so much lately and it’s a good thing for me. Since it is summer season and there are a lot of things that I am looking forward to 🙂 I am excited! Happy Monday to you all!

Anywoo! We all get sucked into the world of Netflix, Hulu or even Amazon Prime, I’m sure and it is so hard to not binge when it is so close to bedtime. You find yourself looking at the time in the dark and shook yourself that it was already 3am. You curse yourself and force yourself to sleep because you have work in the morning. That’s pretty much me sometimes. When I find a show that I really like, like really likes the show so much that I binge so hard. I tell myself daily that I need to start organizing my shiet before watching my show.

A few days ago, I just finished watching a TV show called “Lucifer” on Hulu and man, it is good. I personally like to watch fantasy slash crime type of shows because it makes everything so interesting. I finished that show less than 3 weeks. I KNOW. I know. You’re thinking “Omg, HAYA.” or “Damn girl, you have no life when it comes to bingeing.” I know, I couldn’t agree with you more. It’s a bad habit and I’m pretty sure y’all do that too! Hopefully, Netflix will add season 4 for Lucifer” since the show itself got canceled on FOX channel. (fingers crossed). Now, I’m catching up with “Wynonna Earp” on Netflix season 2. I should stop, don’t I? (telling myself to start prioritizing again).

There’s nothing wrong with watching Netflix or Hulu and chill on your bed. I mean honestly, that’s how I do #Hayaflop right there. However, it’s taking away your priorities. It’s a distraction if you have your show on in front of you. I’ve been telling myself not to do that and you ended by telling yourself 5 more minutes with the show or at least the episode ends. But then again, there’s nothing wrong with that.

Not to worry, next week Monday’s post will be better 🙂 Thank you for taking your time of the day and I appreciate you so much! Catch a glimpse of Haya later.

 

Hoopia

So, I decided to ask one of my closest friend, Hoopia to see if she is interested in being part of my blog and to ask her several questions. She conversed with me by sending gifs and I am so excited to ask her some questions since I have come prepared (insert evil face emoji). I’ve known her for almost 5 years or so and we used to be roommates (She literally corrected me on how many years we’ve known each other and I was stuck with “3 years” (facepalm) This upcoming August will be the 5th year we’ve known each other. I know, I’m horrible with math). To this day, she is one of the people who I have to cherish our friendship. I hope you guys enjoy this interesting interview 🙂

It took us a few minutes to actually get into the questions because we cannot be serious together when it comes to something like this, hahaha.

What can you tell me about yourself?

(a live image of her holding her laughter behind her hand and trying to take seriously with my first question. She wiped her laughing tears)

What do you want them to know about you?

One, I think every little thing is funny. Two, I am very stubborn. Three, I can be very lazy which is why the cat is my animal spirit. I like electronic music. A LOT.  (She mentioned her ethnicity and I had to stop her because that was my next question).

What is your ethnicity?

I’m Romanian but I am the first generation American, so I’m Romanian-American. (gave me that look that states there you go).

This might be interesting. This you might have to think a little. Since you already watch Games of Throne; which house would you belong to in GOT. Like very honestly.

Wait, I need help. (she list 4) Stark, Lannister (which I won’t!), Targaryen, Greyjoy. Baratheon. (we discussed the list of the houses and their sigils in GOT for like 5 minutes). Well, okay. In between two houses, Stark and Targaryen.

Okay, if it only these two: House of Stark and Hosue of Targaryen. Which house do you feel like you belong to?

I would pick house of Stark because of Arya. I feel connected to Arya because she doesn’t fit in with the gender role of women. She disguised herself as a man, dressed as a man. I would join the house of Stark because of that. And she breaks into that stereotype of women having to wear pretty dresses, can’t kill people…I’m not saying that I like to kill people because I don’t! But, she does what men can do. So, yes house of Stark. What about you?

Well, me? I would pick the house of Stark. They symbolized loyalty, the bonding of family. 

And I would pick house of Stark because of Jon Snow.

True, you did have a crush on him from the beginning of the show. I didn’t until later.

Well, because of his butt later in the season? (she laughed out loud). Anyways, next question.

What do you love most about yourself?

First, I would say the first two things about myself. One is my hair, my curly hair. I used to HATE my hair when I was little. But now as I get older, I learned to appreciate my hair so much.

It’s evolution, the changing. Your hair is curly, and now you know what to do to tame that hair.

Tame that mane. T H A T. (I struggled with that phrase a few times).

Second, some people will say this as a bad thing but I think if you use it right, it can be a good thing. I like my stubbornness. What I mean by that is if I believe in something, I am persistent with it. Or I don’t let people put pressure on me. If they kept nagging at me, my stubbornness prevents that as it “Stop!” Especially with family nagging me, like “leave me alone!”

I would never think stubbornness can be a good thing because I always thought it was a bad thing. 

It’s both bad and good thing. True. 

When you were little, what did you want to be?

EMT. I want to be an Emergency Medical Technician (Paramedic), yeah since 2nd grade. I remember in 2nd grade, I decided to become an ambulance paramedic.

What makes you decided that young to become EMT?

I don’t know. I don’t remember a specific event. I just remember 2nd grade that I decided that I’m going to become an ambulance paramedic. I think it because of medicines that make me fascinated. I look up to the medical field, like wow, medicine is a lot as in amazing. But then looking back, I didn’t change my field until freshman year of high school. That is when I decided to become a teacher.

I’ve noticed you have plants and I’m curious. What’s your favorite plant?

Let me show you. I have many that I love but, I would say two plants that I watched closely. One, I bought this plant like in April. The plant itself was very short; two or three months of growth. So, it’s very delicate. It’s so delicate that if you accidentally hit the plant, it’ll bend or fall easily. With that in mind, I care for the plant. I watch over it almost every day making sure it’s still growing and still alive. So, that’s one of my favorite plants. Another one that I bought last year from Trader Joes, it cost around 6 dollars. I’m like, “Fine, sure!” (she showed me the plant she was talking about). It used to be small. I bought it in a regular pot and I noticed that it was growing. I was little worried so I decided to go to nursery garden. I bought a pot and soil. I re-potted it and I noticed that it has grown. (laughs). That time, I re-potted it and I started noticing that it grows fast. One leaf, the first leaf that grew since I re-potted. I felt close with that first leaf (showed me which the first leaf). The first leaf was in the middle and spurt it out. I want to name it but I don’t want to feel stupid or crazy.

What are the names of the plant?

The first plant, I forgot the name of it. But the second one called Dracena. (she went to the patio to get the name for the first plant). I think it called Senecio radicans but, it is Senecio but different kind of plant. It looks the same but it’s small…OMG, I just realized that I know so much about plants now. It brings me joy! (then she shows me the alter of her plants and I was in awe. We talked a little more about plants before we move on to the next question). 

What is the best advice you’ve ever been given?

The best advice I’ve ever been given…I can’t remember every advice.

One advice that literally struck you or affects you in some ways.

Um… I can’t remember one but I’m sure there were pieces of advice that struck me but may I can share my advice that I’ve given myself this year? The one advice to myself this year and last year too, since I started grad school, is to accept every challenge. Honestly, that statement helps me a lot because if you have to go into a situation or an environment where you may or may not be comfortable. Where you are not enjoying or not, feeling not alright or not feeling positive about it. They would trick you, either you complain or you’re fine with it, accept it and learn from that. That “accepting each challenge” and learning from it helps me go through something in a situation.

Right, you won’t know what hits you unless you try it. Because with that, you can’t say, “Oh yeah, I’ve been there, or I know everything.” But how do you know that? 

You have to experience it.

This is a good advice for someone who gets stuck in a situation or facing a lot of obstacles. 

Or someone who is avoiding problems. Avoiding does not help.

How would your close friends describe you?

How would you describe me? (laughs). If my closest friends like my old roommates would have to describe me like you, Haya or other, my first thought is immature. You would describe me as immature. Second… (laughs)…Lazy. Like Hoopia Plop. Third, caring because I care about my friends. They mean a lot to me.

One another thing to describes you is that you’re adventurous. You tend to find something related to being active. Like hiking.

I’m independent too.

Yes, you’re independent. You’re independent yourself like you stand up for yourself. You also analyze yourself. Like hardcore. But that is a good thing because you know yourself the best. 

If a genie granted you 3 wishes right now, what would you wish for?

The first wish will be living back with my roommates again. (AWH!) If not the first wish, the second will be to live close to my old roommates….this is a deep question.

That’s the point of the interview. We’re getting to know you, haha.

I know I can’t wish for materials because they won’t last long. Oh! I have a good one. I want to see Kaskade. VIP booth to see Kasade. Next to him. Food and bottle service, everything. The main important part is Kasade. The third wish will be to travel more. If I were to rub the genie in the bottle to give me this opportunity, is to give me a whole bunch of money enough to travel around the world. Honestly, like a hundred thousand to travel around the world. That is what I want.

What takes up too much of your time?

(Laughs) What takes up my time? (Laughs deeply). I think you know.

So what takes up too much of your time? There are few things I can come up with what takes up too much of your time, but you tell me.

I don’t want to admit but I have to, Netflix.

Netflix? I literally thought differently.

Like what?

Vita. 

Vita?! You serious? (imitating Vita’s singing and dancing to clarify the answer)

THAT.

(laughs) That takes up my time??? Seriously?

Well, you like to replay it a lot. 

(She’s lmao-ing. She knows it’s true). You’re crazy.

Not in one day but I’m pretty sure you replay the video often.

I seriously forgot what he sounds like. oh, that lolololo sound. (laughs). What else?

Cat videos.

(laughs deeply). You know what I was watching today? You will be wtf? I was watching ant colonies and they pour melting metal onto it. They took it out and blow dry it and it literally shows you what it looks like. I was fascinated. No, I’m serious. I’ll send you that link that I watched. It’s so fascinated. Holdth, let me show you. (laughs).

So you said Netflix, right? What show have you been bingeing?  

Grey’s anatomy. I’m on my 13th season. It has been March..(she paused for a moment). What, 3 months?! Wow…300 episodes.

Well, that proves the show takes too much of your time.

Oh p, that means I watched 100 episodes every month (gasp). That’s a lot. So that means…Wait, hold on. (did the math) 25 episodes every week. Whaaat, I have a problem. A Netflix problem.

I’m sure you’re not the only one. I didn’t watch Netflix that hardcore.

You did last year with GOT.

That’s one show. Sure, you’re right but I was trying to catch up because I know I was behind on it. 

(Laughs) And I didn’t have HBO that time. 

Wait, you haven’t watch 7th season? You finished watching it right?

Yeah, I did finish watching 7th season. But that time before, everyone watched it before I even catch up.

True.

Anywoo, that’s the sum of all the questions I have all for you. Thank you for answering them. Like I said, this interview questions are interesting.

Catch a glimpse of Haya next time 🙂

How to Motivate Yourself to Clean Up Your Room

For the past few days (okay, I lied.) For the past week, I’ve procrastinated myself from cleaning up my room. Why? I just recently moved in from upstairs apartment to one-floor apartment with my parents. Let me tell you, it is H-A-R-D. I know myself that I should’ve cleaned up and gone through stuff to rid more things to save some space, but I didn’t. I tell myself every morning when I wake up and see all my stuff still on the floor, “Alright, Haya. You’ll need to figure where that stuff goes and start clearing the space on the floor.” I agonized myself every time when it comes to cleaning. Don’t get me wrong, I like to clean and like to be organized. The thoughts having my room minimized and look at these, it’s definitely not gonna be fast to get rid of things. And it’s the “watching tv while cleaning”‘s fault.

I’ve noticed that is happening with my parents. They had so many things they still keep from the old previous house we used to live in and all those things are in the garage. I know my dad isn’t the problem but mainly my mom. My sister and I were talking about this the other day and we definitely don’t want our parents to appear on a tv show called “Hoarders”.

On a serious note, It took me about 4 days and a half, I think. I felt I had so much stuff but by the end of the 4 days, it was mainly useless papers and books. I was so happy that I bought several cubby storage bins. And I was trying to make this room mine. I added few paintings that I did overtime up on the walls as well.

I still feel like I have too much stuff. Once in a while, I’ll see what I can get rid of and try to influence my parents into doing that. They need to!

So how do you motivate yourself into cleaning your room? Make a list. A list of what you need to do and what you want to do in cleaning. Divide that into possibly a day or for the weekend if you have no plans to go out anytime. Manage your time wisely. Make sure in between cleaning, you take your coffee/tea fix break, lunch break, and snack break. No distractions; avoid turning on your tv if you have one in your room. It. Will. Distracts. You. From. Cleaning. . .No phone unless you’re using your phone for Spotify or Pandora Music. Music Only! Imagine your layout of the room. Measure the size of your room, figure out where your things will go and think if it will fit. Minimize the ‘want’. Ask yourself this before you put things in the room, “Do I need this? Will I use it in the future? Will it benefits me?” So you don’t feel like you’re becoming like a hoarder and you don’t want to add more clutter in your room. Get a big trash bag. You’ll need it when it comes to shredding papers, plastic things, and expired products. Organize your shiet. Make a separate pile for you to see what to keep and what not to keep. It helps A LOT. I organized mails and I had a lot of mails in what not to keep pile.

I hope these tips help! It does for me and it is how I do it when it comes to cleaning my room. If you want to keep your room clean, start your day by cleaning up your bed. From there, you’ll have the motivation to do other things in the room :). Catch a glimpse of Haya later.

How Do You Show Yourself Love?

Life can get hectic sometimes. Even chaotic. How do you slow down and take the time to show yourself love? It should take at least 10 to 30 minutes of your day to indulge yourself, at least. Maybe more but it’s all up to you and how you show yourself love.

I don’t often love myself because I haven’t really truly love myself lately. I know it’s difficult for me because I’m always thinking of others than myself first. Which is bad because this is how I learned it from my parents when growing up. AND it is a bad idea if you’re just laying on the bed and playing candy crush on your phone. it’s a no-no.

Start treating yourself like you’re a queen or king. You deserve to be pampered. I don’t often treat myself like I’m a queen but I try to treat myself like I’m a princess. Like today this morning, I decided to pamper myself by doing a mud mask on me. Cause, why not? I haven’t done this to myself for a while nor doing the mud mask for a while. Do a nose peel and give your facial some love. Take a bath! A long, long bath. Get lush bath bomb while you get it and get fascinated with the colors spilling out into the water. Treat yourself once in a while (It’s also another mental note for me).

Tell yourself at least once a day of what you love about yourself. It can be one thing or two. If you have a hard time looking yourself in front of the mirror, there’s an alternative way (that’s me). What I would do, I typically tell myself like, “Thanks gad, I have such a good sense of humor. If anyone doesn’t get me, only I can get myself laugh or giggle.” I usually tell myself a few positive things daily. It gets me hype up. It may take a while to love myself wholly. It’s difficult but it’s a good place to start with if this is something you’re struggling. Little things will always make you happy even though you may not notice it. I know I do.

I don’t always reflect on myself in the past to what I am today. I am quite proud of myself to where I am right now. Sometimes reflecting on yourself ain’t always good if the past can trigger moments you don’t want to reflect on. However, it may give you a sense of proudness and optimism because you literally grew from your own experiences. Without the experiences you had before, you wouldn’t be where you are right now. Like hard-core adulting. You’ll be looking out in the streets and see a bunch middle school kids trying to start a fight for the video. You’re shaking your head like what’s in the world with the new generation (using GIF of Jacket Chan, if you know what GIF I’m talking about). So take a time of reflection and applaud yourself.

Take a day off! If you truly going through a rough patch, stay home and focus on yourself. Do what you need to do. Back in the day, I used to draw and paint to express myself emotionally. I felt that was an outlet for me and I didn’t have to express to anyone but myself. Sometimes, it is okay to vent or rant to someone else other than yourself; but it’s a good feeling when you find something, you feel like you’re connected within self. Find something that you enjoy. It can be reading or a hobby that makes you happy.

It may not work for many of you but these helpful tips are what I came up based on my own experiences. I hope these help you and if you have any other questions or tips to add for the readers, please leave the comment below! Don’t be afraid and help out the community, y’all. Anywoo, catch a glimpse of Haya later 🙂